You, me, and the elephant in the room.

What are your core beliefs and where did they come from?  Most of us have our core beliefs hanging in our space like an elephant in the room everyone is looking at but no one is talking about. So lets talk about it, and give the elephant the attention it deserves, because it sure is taking up space that could be used for a lot of other things! And who doesn’t love a good elephant story!

By request, I have two versions of this blog post.  There is an abridged and an unabridged version.  I have the unabridged version at the end for those that want to complete the exercises for a bigger expansion into your awareness. 

My awareness10474614_m has really been expanding in profound ways recently.  As a result, those connected to me benefit from their own expansion because we are all tied together in a perfect harmonic unison of energy and shared vibration. This new alignment really resonates with the truth of all I am, and by sharing this, you enjoy a self discovery of your own truths of who you are. Together, we can enjoy the unfolding process of ourselves, as the layers melt away and reveal a core that just feels right. As you read and feel into a new reality for yourself, releasing old beliefs and creating a new paradigm, feel into a reality outside any limited beliefs you are perceiving these words through. 

Our chat today involves the elephant in the room called “Our Beliefs”. They live in our bodies and mind and create our reality. We all have them. We are all acutely aware of other peoples beliefs based on their convictions, conversations, stories and repeating patterns. 

Here is some food for thought to feed your hungry-for-knowledge elephant of beliefs. How is it that we can have so many different beliefs world wide, when we are all the same species? Do the plant and animal world all have their own set of diverse beliefs based on species specification too? Not likely, because they do not live in separation, so they do not need to create beliefs that originate from the mind on what the purpose of their existence is. Then put meaning to it by telling stories and living with a skewed perception of reality.

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Your beliefs stem from your childhood and observing the relationship your parents had with you and their environment? Why do you have the beliefs you have? Is it environmental? A religious belief? A position of status belief? Is it a heritage or cultural belief? Is it generational? Did it come from your parents? (Who most likely repeated family generational beliefs of behavior and emotional content or chose to go to the opposite extreme.)

Beliefs are just judgments, expectations of behavior, and the criticism or approval of how other people chose to live in comparison to you. The phrase all people are created equal is the biggest elephant in our room of beliefs.  

We live in a constant state of separation, that is reinforced everywhere we look.  My point is that it causes a separation within our self, while in reality, we are that very thing we are taught to separate from, and then spend the majority of our lives looking for the fulfillment of it outside of ourselves.  Humanity, time, religion, beliefs, judgment, conditions, expectations, created a perceived separation that many of us fell into and we created an auto pilot of sorts, where the mind and body create our reality.  Our beliefs are taught to the mind from external sources. It makes perfect sense to our mind, that our answers to bridging that disconnect our mind and body now experience, would also come from external sources.

Don’t get me wrong, we all experience a lot of great amazing things, being our life. We are the source of creation itself, always creating, never in a state of stillness. What is clear, is that much of our reality is definitely being created by our own sense of self, and the core of our belief system shows up time and time again to validate our beliefs.

The underlying16502587_m theme I see visually and energetically is that the world is full of choice. We can fall into the choice of limiting beliefs or we can release the idea of beliefs within our selves and be the flow of consciousness experiencing itself as I Am, in presence.

How?

Really notice the choices people make for themselves based on beliefs and know you are doing the exact same thing. (That acknowledgement is awareness, and awareness is the catalyst to change.)  By doing this, you free the mind to play in a bigger arena outside of it’s beliefs. Now expand that to the world and how we all play so many different roles of possibilities.  Is everyone wrong but you? Is everyone right but you?  Can you see that neither question is yes or no, but the principle is pretty overwhelming?

Can you see the elephant in the room?

Beliefs are everywhere and they are all based on choice and exposure, and that choice is based on the mind creating a belief based on it’s perception of it’s realities. Those realities were most likely instilled by your parents or caregivers, repeating patterns generation after generation of beliefs of how to behave, both toward the external world (you and others) and internally (self love). We picked up and stored all of this information subliminally, physically, environmentally. We were building a reference point on emotional energies before even knowing what the words associated with it were.  It is now imprinted in our mind as behavioral and emotional exposure to a raw mind with no reference point of right or wrong, good or bad.

I made a shift, realizing that “I just Am”,  and I was the only one limiting myself. Me alone. I had allowed myself to fall into the auto pilot of humanity that lives in the belief of separation, and I lived there under judgement, expectation, limitations, and conditions put upon me by others and myself.

We all get stuck in our stories of who we believe ourselves to be. And in reality, your mind was created by your environment because it was a blank slate when you came into the world. Your mind is nothing but patterns based on perceptions of how it logged information about your experiences. The other aspect of you is your body. Your body slows the vibrational energies and runs it in the body to experience emotions which often become trapped due to the emotional high or low that occurred in the emotional content your mind processed. The body and mind now have created a trigger and a belief around the experience.  Releasing beliefs and triggers will shift this energy so you can radiate into the world differently, attracting a new reality that is more playful and loving. 

19115727_mI hope you found this article useful enough to share. Please sign up on my email list for a free meditation.  I do not send much out, but do have some useful packages available and material in the works and would love to share these articles and more with you. Call me at 303-886-1455, if you would like to set up a personal or group appointment via of Skype or In Person. I am located in Denver Colorado and offer first time clients a free 30 min session.

 

 

 

The Unabridged version expanded to include exercises and insight:

My awareness has really been expanding in profound ways recently.  As a result, those connected to me benefit from their own expansion because we are all tied together in a perfect harmonic unison of energy and shared vibration. This new alignment really resonates with the truth of all I am, and by sharing this, you enjoy a self discovery of your own truths of who you are. Together, we can enjoy the unfolding process of ourselves, as the layers melt away and reveal a core that just feels right. As you read and feel into a new reality for yourself, releasing old beliefs and creating a new paradigm, feel into a reality outside any limited beliefs you are perceiving these words throughDo a second read through, if you feel like something was shifting in your reality, and see if you notice a shift in how the words respond inside of you.

10474614_mOur chat today involves the elephant in the room called “Our Beliefs”. They live in our bodies and mind and create our reality. We all have them. We are all acutely aware of other peoples beliefs based on their convictions, conversations, stories and repeating patterns.

Here is some food for thought to feed your hungry-for-knowledge elephant of beliefs. How is it that we can have so many different beliefs world wide, when we are all the same species? Do the plant and animal world all have their own set of diverse beliefs based on species specification too? Not likely, because they do not live in separation, so they do not need to create beliefs that originate from the mind on what the purpose of their existence is. Then put meaning to it by telling stories and living with a skewed perception of reality.

Answer the following questions to open up your core your belief system, with no other reason then to bring yourself into your own awareness of your judgement, which ties directly to your belief system. There are quite a few sample questions here, but they give you a great gauge on your core belief systems.  

What is your self talk when answering or journaling the following?

  • What do I think and why regarding other religions, their practices, spirituality, witchcraft, devil worshipers, or other practices?
  • What is my definition of God or is that even a reality in my belief system?
  • What drives me?
  • Do I love and honor myself fully, or does depend on external validation? Am I happy just being in my own presence?
  • How much of my life is created by me or in my control?
  • How do I see myself in comparison to others, how do others measure up to me? Is there a pecking order of superior and inferior? What is the basis of my judgement?
  • What kind of value do I place on virtues, morality, drive, integrity, both in myself and others?
  • Do I believe people are a product of their environment? Does this contradict itself in the love and compassion or value I have for people?
  • Do I judge based on my reaction to a person before knowing their story? Do I bother to hear the story and listen if they are outside my comfort zone due to looks, status, opportunity, or other factors that I am aware of? 
  • What makes a good parent, friend, lover, husband, wife, role model, teacher, mentor? Do they all have the same traits or do I require people to show up and be different due to their place in my life? 
  • Do I agree with my parents parental guidance and upbringing of me?  
  • What do I like and dislike about myself and those around me? Is it possible to see something good in everyone and love that in them, or do they just bug the shit out of me because they live by a different standard?
  • Why do I choose the judgments, conditions, expectations, criticism I have toward myself and others?
  • What do I think of people who show off, are arrogant, timid, know-it-all’s, cry baby’s?
  • How do I gauge my success or failures? 
  • What is my judgement when I see a homeless person? A poor person? A beggar? A victim or someone being victimized? 
  • What am I? How do I define myself and my existence? 
  • What is my core belief about how my life is created around me?
  • What happens to me when my body no longer breathes?
  • What is my truth about what I believe and how did I acquire that truth as my belief?

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Now after each statement answer the following: Did your beliefs around this stem from your childhood and observing the relationship your parents had with you and their environment? Why do you have the beliefs you have? Is it environmental? A religious belief? A position of status belief? Is it a heritage or cultural belief? Is it generational? Did it come from your parents? (Who most likely repeated family generational beliefs of behavior and emotional content or went to the opposite extreme.)

Beliefs are just judgments, expectations of behavior, and the criticism or approval of how other people chose to live in comparison to you. The phrase all people are created equal is the biggest elephant in our room of beliefs.  

A little history in how this article showed itself to me: Interestingly, in working with clients, friends, and myself, I noticed a repeating pattern of ‘self limitation, self destruction, being stuck in a reoccurring themed loop, or limitations of possibilities’ occurring. I also tuned into a repeating pattern that we all are taught, that has been thousands of years in the making, without getting to religious, (which is exactly how this is going to sound, so think nice things about me, I promise I am not channeling Satan, and read through it for the point vs the content): that God is somewhere else, we pray to him, sacrifice to him, die for him, live for him, some are taught there is no God, that God is punishing or damning to be feared and revered, that there is a special place in hell for people, that heaven is for our afterlife, that we live in a constant state of separation, that is reinforced everywhere we look.  My point is that it causes a separation within our self, while in reality, we are that very thing we are taught to separate from, and then spend the majority of our lives looking for the fulfillment of it outside of ourselves.  Humanity, time, religion, beliefs, judgment, conditions, expectations, created a perceived separation that many of us fell into and we created an auto pilot of sorts, where the mind and body create our reality. Our beliefs are taught to the mind from external sources. It makes perfect sense to our mind, that our answers to bridging that disconnect our mind and body now experience, would also come from external sources.

Don’t get me wrong, we all experience a lot of great amazing things, being our life. We are the source of creation itself, always creating, never in a state of stillness. What is clear, is that much of our reality is definitely being created by our own sense of self, and the core of our belief system shows up time and time again to validate our belief.

The underlying16502587_m theme I see visually and energetically is that the world is full of choice. We can fall into the choice of limiting beliefs or we can release the idea of beliefs within our selves and be the flow of consciousness experiencing itself as I Am, in presence. How? Just as you choose to create your life, choose to un-create the life your mind created through your upbringing and how you perceived your reality. Exercise this as much as you can throughout the day to create a new reality: Look bigger then your secular world and into the world of possibilities that show you minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, how different beliefs bring about different results, through the news, your friends, social media, in any interaction with other people or sources, be the observer. Let the mind play extensively in this arena for it’s own self help of discovering the truths of it’s limited exposure to the true expansion it is capable of creating within itself. 

Really notice the choices people make for themselves based on beliefs and know you are doing the exact same thing. (That acknowledgement is awareness, and awareness is the catalyst to change.)  By doing this, you free the mind to play in a bigger arena outside of it’s beliefs. Now expand that to the world and how we all play so many different roles of possibilities.  Is everyone wrong but you? Is everyone right but you?  Can you see that neither question is yes or no, but the principle is pretty overwhelming?

Can you see the elephant in the room?

Beliefs are everywhere and they are all based on choice and exposure, and that choice is based on the mind creating a belief based on it’s perception of it’s realities. Those realities were most likely instilled by your parents or caregivers, repeating patterns generation after generation of beliefs of how to behave, both toward the external world (you and others) and internally (self love). We picked up and stored all of this information subliminally, physically, environmentally. We were building a reference point on emotional energies before even knowing what the words associated with it were.  It is now imprinted in our mind as behavioral and emotional exposure to a raw mind with no reference point of right or wrong, good or bad.

(Slightly off topic, but worth mentioning, is that we can often associate which parent we became in our adulthood, in our avoidance to take on the traits of the other parent or caregiver. It is fascinating how consistent this is. It is also interesting how the person then creates relationships with aspects of themselves they avoiding being, often this is also the opposite parent or caregiver. I see it is as a means to create balance, familiarity, and a comfortable discomfort, because we (our mind) does not have the tools to be anything other then what we are exposed to, which is our caregivers. I mention this because at its core, it ties into our beliefs about our realities.)

I have seen and personally experienced the ‘hard’ way, as well as observing through my friends and clients, that anything we resist will persist and get bigger, bringing us to our breaking point more times then not. Then we start over anew, bruised, broken, recharged, hopeful, and ready to go, only to recreate over time, the same thing over again. How heartbreaking it is to the body and heart that the mind cannot figure out how to do it differently. Those shift of beliefs and perceptions that can change our life, and we cannot even begin to fathom or imagine being in our mind space. Our phrase becomes “If I could just….” but can’t with any longevity because we spent our whole life not exposing our mind to the unknown possibilities or knowledge or exposure of being anything different then who our beliefs allowed us to be. We are stunted from our limited belief system in how to discover that overall feeling of that free flow or free fall we desire, the place where all things are experiences that are neither good or bad, a playground that acts as a gauge to how we see/treat/feel our selves.

I made a shift, realizing that “I just Am”,  and I was the only one limiting myself. Me alone. I had allowed myself to fall into the auto pilot of humanity that lives in the belief of separation, and I lived there under judgement, expectation, limitations, and conditions put upon me by others and myself.

I was exhausted holding in place something that wasn’t working and my life was a mess of redundancy, failing relationships, self loathing, excess weight from overeating and drinking, feeling lost with no purpose, blah, blah, blah, I had stories galore to support my belief system.  I noticed by doing the exercise above and becoming the observer, I could see more.  So stepping outside of even that, I asked for everything that I am to become clear, I was willing to accept all of me in a full surrender, I realized I was being it anyway, but instead of fighting it and having it fight back, I merged it all into one energy and vibration and it became aware that is was GodSpace experiencing itself-through itself. It came together through very interesting venues and each time I was given the choice to fall into the old belief my mind had captured as my reality or chose to follow my request, and that brought about a huge shift in my experience here. What happens next, I don’t know, but because I accept all of me, anything could show up. What is worth mentioning is that my life continues to expand beyond belief as I move away from beliefs, I would venture to say that my belief is that I have no idea where I am going, I am here now and enjoying the state of being in the presence of now. My past eludes me and skirts on the edges of my mind, my future is unknown, but it always was anyway. What do I see? All the beautiful friends, family, opportunities, and conveniences that allow me the space to be. The ease of living got easier as I surrendered into everything, which always goes against our nature, but reminds me of those irritating curse worthy Chinese finger traps you get stuck in when you fight getting out of. 

iStock_000026684209_SmallWhat I also observed is that we all create patterns from our mind when we live separate from our truth and believe in lack and competition.  I see myself and others as perfect. Perfect at being me, just as they are perfect at being them.  No one is wrong or needs fixing, what I do is open up more possibilities of everything you already are, but maybe are not realizing because of old beliefs that do not have to be true any longer. We all get stuck in our stories of who we believe ourselves to be, I just shift your perspective, allowing you to see more of who you are vs who your mind created. And in reality, your mind was created by your environment because it was a blank slate when you came into the world. Your mind is nothing but patterns based on perceptions of how it logged information about your experiences. The other aspect of you is your body. Your body slows the vibrational energies and runs it in the body to experience emotions which often become trapped due to the emotional high or low that occurred in the emotional content your mind processed. The body and mind now have created a trigger and a belief around the experience.  Releasing beliefs and triggers will shift this energy so you can radiate into the world differently, attracting a new reality that is more playful and loving. 

19115727_mI hope you found this article useful enough to share, please sign up on my email list for a free meditation.  I do not send much out, but would love to share my blogs with you directly.  I also have some useful packages available and material in the works.Call me at 303-886-1455, if you would like to set up a personal or group appointment by Skype or In Person.

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